be yourself

Book Quote:

If you know me you must know that I love quotes, specially from books I read. This one is from the book “Delirium” by Lauren Oliver. I found this quote and it remind me of myself and of people that like me, at some point try to fit in with the people around us. We have to be ourselves and learn to love ourselves to be loved my others. 🙂

One of many ways to feel lonely sometimes…

When you nodoby around you understand you.

Sometimes the nature of who you are is very different from the people around you and they don’t understand you, critize you, make fun of you and so. That’s when we decide to stay away, stay quiet and keep things at secret to avoid people from pushing you away.
But how we can give up who we are, to please other humans? For me, that’s not fair.
So, they right people will stay around you if you are yourself. I tried to change once, and I felt like something was missing from me and then I decided that as long I am not hurting anyone I was going to be myself and nothing else. At the end of the day, before going to be it’s just us and our thoughts and what’s in there is what you really are.

Nonsense? Maybe. I wanted to write in general and not specifics examples because it’s worse.

until then.

thank you for reading,

“I can’t be like them…”

This might be one of the hardest blog to write but, I will try my best to write what I have to say. I say it’s hard because it might be contradictory, empty, or without sense.

I have seen people struggling so hard to fit around people, to pretend to be social or popular and losing themselves just to feel accept in every group of people, and I can’t be like them. I don’t know if they are right or wrong, but I can’t be like that. I have to admit that during those years where I was trying to find who I am, I met many people with different lifestyles to know where I could feel comfortable, I was part of that game but I grew up. I am still on the process but I am glad that I have a base of what I like and what I don’t, and what things I can tolerate. I have learned, not all, to understand what kind of people I want or need around me and to who to trust. I don’t need to feel loved by everyone, I dont need to be popular, I just need to be myself and to be happy with it; I don’t want to be loved by something I am not.

I can’t be like those people that tries to be friends with everyone just to feel popular and then nobody’s there when they need someone to trust their secrets. I can’t be like the people that have to feel loved my everyone because I understand that not everyone has to like me, viceversa. I can’t be a chameleon and try to fit where I don’t feel comfortable. I know I am very different, and I never feel like I fit somewhere but I try to be around the closest things that make me feel me. I know it’s hard, I know everybody is different but please, try to find yourself first. When you act and be yourself the right people will be around you, you won’t have to try hard.

I am so glad I had stumble upon many rocks but, now I am closer to know where I belong and who I am. Sometimes I been left out, and it’s there when I am sure that I’m not like the rest, that I stand out.

Don’t be like them, be yourself !